Thursday, 23 August 2012

AM I......

* generous?  I think I am a pretty generous person. When I have something to give, whether it be material things, my time, or whether it be to help someone out, or just be there to listen, I always try do whatever it takes.

* empathetic?  I don't know anyone more empathetic than me. When someone is in distress or pain, such as getting hurt, or losing a loved one, I feel so much pain for them. I actually feel like I am in there shoes going through exactly what they are going through. It's hard to explain the strangest feeling that runs through me when someone just as much as cuts themselves or even gets seriously hurt. It's not like the feeling most people get when they have a week stomach, and their stomach feels upset, but it's more like I can feel their physical and mental pain. It's pretty intense!

*  patient?  Yes and no! I have tonnes of patience for people. I've had the experience of dealing with alot of different kinds of  people, some good, and some not so good. I always wished I'd have taken some classes on psychology, because human behavior has always fascinated me. I've learnt to have patience for alot of different kinds of people. But, as like everyone, we always have our limit as to how much one can take before your patience runs thin. I am very well known for giving people chance after chance before I realize there is no point to trying to help someone anymore. Now, when it comes to having patience for things such as sitting in a line at a drive-thru waiting for my order, or sitting in an audience waiting for the show to begin, my patience is thin. When my stomach is growling because I'm hungry or my butts getting sore from sitting too long, I just want everything to happen now! :)

*  forgiving?  Yes, I'd say I am forgiving. I give people many chances to prove themselves, even if they've hurt me time and time again. Sometimes it may take me awhile to forgive them, because I tend to put a guard up, and I get very defensive, but I do eventually forgive, but I never forget. Something I need to work on...holding a grudge.

* dreamer?  Absolutely! I've spent my whole life dreaming. My dream as a little girl was to one day find a prince who would marry me and make me so happy. Many times I get caught staring off into a distance and someone is always asking if I'm ok or if something is bothering me. Nope, just usually thinking of something wonderful. I don't just dream for me, I dream of things I hope for my kids and for my family and friends. Some of the dreams I've had are owning a corvette, learning how to ride a horse without fear, having 4 children, owning my own business, riding in a hot air balloon, seeing the pyramids, and well this one is a little unrealistic, but owning my very own pet kangaroo! (lol)

*  caring?  I'm a caring person. I wish I had more time to spend with the ones I Love. I also wish I had more time to volunteer to make others lives better. But for now, when I can, I offer good advice and am good at listening or giving hugs when someone is feeling down. Everyone knows that they can call me whenever they need someone to talk or someone to help them through something. I'm busy, but never too busy that I can't take time out of my day to help people out.

*  supportive? Yes, I am pretty good at supporting other peoples ideas and beliefs, but I also like to give some advice once in awhile too. Sometimes when someone is struggling with a decision, I like to open their minds to other alternatives or suggestions. It helps them to see things from a different perspective or point of view. But in the end, no matter what their decision, I will support them, no matter what.

*  errogant?  No! One trait in people that I can't stand! My skin crawls at the sound and sight of an errogant person. Sorry, but nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. Not only that but we all have things to work on with our character. We should all be striving to be a better person each day, in different aspects, especially when it comes to how we treat others. So nobody should be walking around thinking they are better than anyone else.

*  controversial?  I hate controversy. I've never liked being put in a position where I have to fight about something, or in a situation where others are doing it in front of me. I feel very weak which in turn causes me to give up very easily. Arguing and fighting over stupid petty little issues, makes me feel like I can't breath sometimes. Life is too short to spend it bickering over nothing.

*  emotional?  Of course I am. (lol). I cry at weddings, baby showers, graduations. So pretty much anything that brings me tears of happiness, which is the result of seeing others happy or going through a very important period in their lives. As well, I cry at funerals, saying farewell, and when others are in  pain. Not good with seeing others go through difficult times in their life, or when someone is going away for a period of time.

*  insecure?  Was more insecure when I was younger, but am still working on some of my insecurities. I still show some signs such as being defensive when I feel attacked; being a bit materialistic; can't take compliments well; tend to apologize alot because I'm self-doubting; and I'm prone to nervous laughter. (that will probably never go away though...haha).

*  happy?  More often than not, I am a happy person. I like to have fun, sometimes a little too much, and I love to smile and laugh. I do have my moments when things are going wrong, or not as planned, as I'm sure everyone can relate, but for the most part I'm a pretty happy person. Sometimes I get asked if I'm ok because I'm not always smiling, but it's usually only because I'm daydreaming or have alot of stuff on my mind, but it doesn't mean I'm not happy.

Hope you enjoyed this blog. Some who know me well, you may agree with my descriptions of things about my character. For those who don't know me as well, I hope you enjoyed a little more insight as to who I am.

:)   xoxo

Sunday, 19 August 2012

Started this blog awhile ago, but never got back to finish writing it. It was a toss up as to what topic I was going to write about, whether it was friends or family, both being a very important thing in my life, so I chose the following:


My Friends I call Family

"A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you for who you are."

I've always been one of those friends who is always there to listen to other peoples problems, but I try not to bore them with all my little life's tragedies. I feel like I can deal with most of what I've been dealt, and my goal is to see other people happy.  I'll make them smile or laugh when they are feeling down.  I'll give them some advice to hopefully help them see another way of looking at things. I'm also good at giving hugs and good at cheering people up. I treat others the way I want to be treated. I'm not perfect, but I do my best to treat my friends with respect and try to be there for them through everything in their life.

I've met some truly amazing people and friends throughout my life. (and one not so much). But, I do have so many wonderful memories of spending time with each and every one of them.

Way back when I was younger, from Kindergarten to Grade 4, I had a really hard time fitting in with other kids, mainly because I looked different. Lets face it, little kids can be very cruel! But, I did manage to struggle through my early childhood school years. In grade 4, we moved to a new house and I started at a new school, where I continued until Grade 8. Life during those years seemed so much better than before. As children grow up, they seem to mature and be a little more accepting, understanding and compassionate toward others who are "different".  I made some of the best friends there that anybody could ever ask for. I captured so many great memories hanging out during school time and after school with them. Rollerskating, hopscotch, birthday parties, playing at the park, skating, etc...Life seemed great!

Highschool, ugh!!!  Thank goodness for some of my elementary school friends, because the next 4 years was the worst. My Mom & Dad were going through their seperation, so this was a time when I needed friends the most. Some friends branched off to meet other people, but a handful of us still chummed together. I met alot of people in highschool, but didn't go out of my way to get really close to them because life was just so overwhelming with the family issues plus all the stress of schoolwork. But, I look back now and wish I could have had the chance to hang with these new people outside of school, because from what I see of them now, looks like I missed out on getting to know some really amazing people. Although, I did manage to meet a couple of really amazing guy friends. I met one through a job I had in highschool, and the other I met at a rollerskating rink. Thank goodness for these two friends, it made home-life seem not so bad most days. They were always there to listen and they made days when I was feeling dull, seem so much brighter. Seriously, looking back, I owe these guys everything! They are two of my truest friends ever.

Once highschool was over, people seemed to branch off, once again. I kept in contact with a few of them still. Unfortunately, at that point I should have cut ties with one in particular. Our friendship for many years was always up and down. Her jealousy of what I did, what I had, what I wore, etc...was more than I could handle most days. Her behavior was beyond peculiar. But of course, me not wanting to stir up shit, always put up with her crap.   One example, she declined to be my maid of honor in my wedding party and
decided not to talk to me for a couple years later because she had nothing going on in her life. A few years later after she had quit talking to me, she was now married and called me up. We'd get together as couples, but because she was still so insecure and jealous, I wasn't allowed to sit in the same room with her husband, or allowed to talk to him, so we usually had to be in different rooms to visit. Weird! To make a long story short, finally my breaking point, was when she got caught being unfaithful to her husband, not only did she turn the story around and tried to make him look like he was a cheater, she then said that she had a suspicion that I was flirting with him too. Wow, this was one crazy bit#h! Needless to say, she got one nasty email from me about how she treated me over the years, and how she really had issues that she needed to get professional help with.

Fortunately the one good thing that came out of this one bad experience is that I'm learning who your real friends are, and how to walk away from situations like these. I still have some of the most truly amazing friends in my life from my past, plus I have all the wonderful memories of my friends from my childhood, plus  a few new dear friends that I've met along the way. Sometimes we don't always get together as often as I would like, but we can always pick up where we left off. We understand each other, we believe in each other, and we accept each other.
"FRIENDS ARE THE FAMILY WE CHOOSE FOR OURSELVES".